Story by Qays S.M
学会理解自己，也要在某些时候对自己温柔一点。
有些时刻，我们并不想迈出很大的步伐。身体感到疲惫，思绪变慢，身心之间好像失去了以往的默契。遇到这种情况，我们真的需要为此感到焦虑吗？我觉得不必。
我妈妈曾经对我说过一句话：
“没有混乱，就不会有秩序。”
这句话我记了很多年。每当我情绪低落、思绪混乱的时候，我都会提醒自己：此刻的混乱，并不是结束，而是在为新的秩序做准备。也许现在我还不明白，但很快，一些新的东西就会慢慢浮现。
而且，说实话，大多数时候它真的应验了。
那种让人瘫在沙发上、感到疲惫无力的状态，并不一定代表失败。有时候，那只是一个重启阶段。就像系统在后台运行，悄悄整理、修复、重组。
当然，平衡也很重要。
如果重启太频繁，就可能进入另一种状态——停留在舒适区，而忘了继续前行。连“重启”本身，也需要一个结束。
所以，有时候对自己灵活一点，但也要保持觉察。
需要休息时就休息，观察自己的变化，当能量回来时，再温和地继续向前。
成长并不总是轰轰烈烈、快速明显的。
有时它是安静的、缓慢的，但同样真实而重要。
请相信，即使现在还看不见，某些对你有益的东西，正在悄然形成。
English Version
Understand yourself, and be gentle with yourself sometimes.
There are moments when we don’t want to take big steps. Our body feels heavy, the mind feels slow, and the usual coordination just isn’t there. When this happens, should we stress about it? I don’t think so.
My mum used to say to me:
“If there is no disorder, there can be no order.”
I’ve carried this sentence with me for years. Every time I feel low or mentally messy, I remind myself: this disorder is not the end — it is preparation. Maybe I don’t understand it now, but soon, something new will become clear.
And honestly, most of the time, it turns out to be true.
That weak feeling, when you drop your body on the sofa and feel tired, is not always failure. Sometimes it’s a reset phase. A quiet timelapse where the mind reorganizes itself, like a system rebooting in the background.
But there’s also wisdom in balance.
Too much resetting can trap us in another kind of mode — comfort without movement. Even a reset needs an end.
So be flexible with yourself, but also stay aware.
Rest when needed, observe your thoughts, and gently return when energy comes back.
Progress is not always loud or fast. Sometimes it’s silent and slow — and still meaningful.
Trust that something is forming for your good, even if you can’t see it yet.
